Connect to Self
A 4-week intensive psychosomatic journey into healing childhood trauma
For women who are resistant to healing but are exhausted of repeating the same patterns
(The ones who'd rather do literally anything else than sit still and be)
This isn't another "love yourself" course where you'll be told to just breathe and journal. This is deep, transformative work that gets to the root of what's really going on.
Transform your connection with yourself to create real change in your relationships and overcome the unhelpful patterns in your life.
You're smart. Successful. The cream of the crop.
The one who looks like everything is grand.
Except….
You're exhausted from constantly doing, achieving, and keeping it all together. Your relationships follow the same painful patterns. And despite all the self-help books, therapy sessions, and conscious efforts to "fix" yourself, you still have an aversion to your self.
You still do not love yourself.
You’re still not convinced that slowing down, doing less- which seems impossible, will actually solve everything the literature says it will.
The thoughts of doing less feels impossible. But you know this constant doing and busyness is why you can’t name your needs, never mind ask for them to be met and you feel so lost.
Is this hitting home?
If You’re:
The high achiever who's exhausted from constantly doing (but don’t want to stop)
Someone who loses themselves in relationships, is avoidant and anxious at the same time
Burnout of analyzing everything and still going round in the exact same circles
Someone who has childhood trauma but it don’t see point in going back there
Addicted to escaping and numbing
…then it's time to make a change.
Here's what you probably already know:
Those patterns you keep repeating? The relationships that feel eerily similar? The way you abandon yourself the moment conflict shows up?
… that's your inner child running the show.
(Important! Just because you had a privileged upbringing doesn’t mean you don’t have childhood trauma. Everyone has childhood trauma)
The real problem?
You're trying to think your way through healing.
Thinking your feelings.
Reading all the books.
Analyzing every feeling.
Working harder at healing like it's another thing to prove your worth.
But here's the thing:
Your body keeps the score, and your body doesn’t like the constant tracking, it intefers with the beauty of it.
You dont anaylse and track the ocean, you breathe and feel it, absorb its awe.
Those unexplained outbursts?
The anxiety that shows up in relationships?
The deep resistance to anything that feels like "healing"?
That's not you being broken.
That's the chains that shackle you asking you to pay attention.
It’s your body asking to be freed.
Your body holds so much wisdom about your deepest desires and oldest wounds.
It’s likely screaming at you because the whispers went unheard.
It’s time to listen.
Imagine instead:
Finally understanding why you react the way you do (and actually being able to change it)
Being able to staying present during conflict instead of running for the hills
Breaking free from abandonment relationship patterns (including the one with yourself)
Learning to trust yourself instead of second-guessing every decision
Feeling deeply self-assured and confident in your abilities
Actually knowing how to attend to your core wounds instead of just stepping over them time and time again
Not through more thinking.
Not through pushing harder.
But through actually learning to slow down and listen to what your body's been trying to tell you this whole time.
(Even if the thought of slowing down makes you want to run a marathon instead.)
The Work
A month-long devotion to healing the origin of your adult struggles through self study, breath, movement and connection
For women who want to stop repeating patterns and live a life rich in connection and authenticity.
This isn't another "love yourself" course where you'll be told to just breathe and journal. This is deep, transformative work that gets to the root of what's really going on.
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Four 1:1 Deep Dive Calls with Me
In these sessions I will bring your attention to the mirrors in your adult life from your childhood that you haven’t noticed yet.
I will support you noticing when you are story telling rather than feeling, when you are telling perspectives rather than connecting to truth. -
20 Live Practice Sessions
Understanding will only get you so far. The real work is in the lived experience. Experience somatic movement, breathwork, mantra, affirmations, visualisations and observe to uncover the wisdom your body holds.
Live on Zoom, 30 minutes Mon-Fri - a mixture of mornings and evenings. Recordings available if times clash with your schedule. -
4 Education Sessions
We’ll have weekly calls with the group to help you understand the psychology and somatic psychology of your body through the mediums of: body-mind centering, internal family systems, yoga philosophy and tantra philosophy. Understand the resistance you feel, what it serves and why - so that you can implement the change you desire. These are education sessions to understand the philosophy and science of why this all works.
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Supportive Community
You won’t be in this alone. The power of healing lies in being witnessed. The eye can see everything but itself.
Connect with other likeminded women going through similar struggles as you. Share in our closed facebook group, ask questions and access any short video tutorials I’ll create based on different themes that arise amongst the group. This is the most powerful element of this course.
What Makes This Different
The thing that makes me really good at my job is that I’m terrible at healing.
I was the one rolling my eyes at breathwork.
The one who thought sitting still was actual torture.
The one who'd rather die than relax.
(Sound familiar?)
But here's what I learned:
The resistance? It's part of the process.
The skepticism? Actually useful.
The inability to slow down? That's exactly where we start.
Remember it didn’t begin with you.
It’s not your fault but change is so necessary for health in this sick world.
I'm not here to tell you to "just trust the process."
I'm here to show you how to work with your resistance instead of fighting it.
What Other Women Are Saying
“This course has held my hand on a path which took me from girl lost in the agony of heartbreak to connected woman coming back to her body, and her path. Life is starting to feel like an adventure again, not a grey hole of fog. I was so touched by Carla’s presence in every session and the incredible support she provided to us outside of the calls. Her wisdom touched me so deeply and brought profound meaning and acceptance to aspects of my life I was really struggling with.”
“I am so glad I signed up with Carla. I realised I was always putting other people first and dismissing my own needs so carving out time in the morning and evening just for myself felt really important. Each week there was a different focus and every morning she shared different types of breathwork, movement, poetry and her own wisdom and learnings.
It was an amazing group to be part of and listening to the other women in the course was so beneficial and just made me feel so connected to them and more connected to myself and to ultimatley trust and believe in myself more. Thank you Carla and all the other women!”
“I would encourage any woman to take part in this course. Giving myself my full attention for 30 mins a day has made such an impact in the relationship I have with myself and has deepened it in my ways. Also knowing there there are other women going through the process with me was so beautiful. It’s hard to put this course into words and I think more realisations will happen as everything settles. Carla is such a gorgeous space holder, with so much knowledge, knowing she has been through this journey herself also gives us all permission to be more honest and open.”
“A transformative and nurturing experience with a beautiful group of women. I was a relative beginner to breathwork but thanks to Carla’s thoughtful, warm and expert teaching I learned so much about this practice and the different tools I needed to reconnect with and listen to my body. I would 100% recommend to anyone who is in need of self-care or going through a transitional moment in their lives. Thank you Carla!”
“The course has been amazing. How Carla delivers each class with such compassion and patience allowed me to release any resistance or apprehension I had. The course was well structured and gave the theory and practice side of each exercise we practiced and we were given space and support for any difficultly we may have faced. I would highly recommend it to anyone and I’m so glad I did it myself. ”
“The programme created an opportunity for my healing to begin. I found it difficult to find a safe space where I could start to unravel my emotions and begin to heal. I am on a journey and I have learnt to appreciate the journey through this course and remove the pressure of a quick fix. I thoroughly enjoyed the group sessions and felt the power in sharing with the others. ”
What You'll Walk Away With
1. A New Relationship with Yourself
To stop the acts of violence to your self and really, truly love yourself..
Heal your inner child: which will change your current external challenges and connect you to the whole of you.
Which means deeper connection, more power and more love.
2. Practical Tools That Actually Work
Learn how to:
Stay present during conflict instead of running or freezing, to respond rather than react
Recognize your patterns before you're knee-deep in them
Actually feel your feelings without reacting or projecting
Trust your body's wisdom and learn to listen
3. Deep, Lasting Change
This isn't about quick fixes or temporary solutions. This is about transforming your relationship with yourself from the ground up. So you can:
Break free from unhealthy relationship patterns
Stop abandoning yourself when things get tough
Actually trust yourself and your decisions
Create the life you want without constantly second-guessing yourself
The Process
Week 1: Understand Your Resistance to Self
Explore why you resist healing (and why that's actually useful information)
Identifying childhood experiences to understand patterns throughout your life
Uncover when you first met the emotions you're wrestling with today
Start shifting focus from others back to yourself
Week 2: Identify Unhelpful Core Beliefs
Expose the untrue stories you're telling yourself - often hidden under many layers
Dig into why "I'm not worthy" feels so familiar
Explore how childhood beliefs show up in your adult relationships
Start the process of connecting and accepting truth and healing these false beliefs
Week 3: Learn to Nurture Yourself
Learn what real self-care looks like, what its like to attend
Explore your relationship with your parents and how it shapes your emotional processing + intelligence
Process emotions without getting consumed
Define who you actually want to be in this world
Week 4: Integration & Forward Motion
Develop practices that actually stick and works for how you like to live your life
Learn what to do when you fall back to the hole
Stop seeking outside validation to fill internal voids
Create sustainable change that lasts
Why Me?
Because I get it. I was resistant to all of this for YEARS.
I had built a successful corporate career. But I did not have it all figured out. I was addicted to being busy - probably the busiest person you ever met.
I was prescribed yoga and meditation by my therapist after being diagnosed with CPTSD at 27. But I was trying so hard that I couldn't tell my arm from my leg.
I was addicted to exercise but was convinced my therapist was trying to make me fat when she suggested I give up training.
My worst fear? Being still and silent.
My first response to yoga? Looking like a 60-year-old rugby player trying to touch their toes.
My reaction to meditation? Holding my breath so much that I ended up passing out.
But something kept me showing up.
And eventually, I learned that the very resistance to turning inwards and slowing down that I fought against was actually the key to everything I was seeking- love, passions, connection.
I help women like you who are:
Resistant to healing (my specialty)
Desperate for change but stuck in their heads
Too exhausted to feel
Addicted to work / food / exercise / other
Terrified of failing
Too afraid of losing people to let them get close
I’m grounded, good craic and make this work which can feel airy fairy, as tangible as possible.
My approach is through love and compassionate curiosity.
I have a gift for the work that I do, in truly seeing you, which makes me great at my job.
I will give it to you straight while holding and supporting you.
I also know that I don’t have the answers, you do.
I just help you find them.
Connect to Self
The Breakdown
✔ 4 weeks of intensive psychosomatic healing
✔ 20 live group practice sessions (mix of morning and evening)
✔ 4 educational sessions covering childhood trauma, core beliefs, resistance to self and healing practices that actually work
✔ 4 1:1 sessions with me
✔ 1 deep breathwork and somatics session
✔ Access to a private Facebook group for sharing and support
✔ Short tutorials that I’ll create based on different themes that arise with the group
Price: £950
or £333 x3
“If you’re looking for a sign to invest in yourself this is it :) l never realised how powerful breathwork is. Carla is so knowledgeable and personable and you will really enjoy taking this time for yourself to heal and find some inner peace.”
“A beautiful act of self-love & kindness. You’ll begin to peel back the layers & free yourself of all the societal conditioning, self-loathing & self-limiting beliefs. Please do this course, you deserve to be poured back in to x”
Is This Right For You?
Connect to Self is perfect if you:
Know you need to slow down but can't seem to do it
Are tired of repeating the same relationship patterns
Want to be self-assured (not just looking like you have it together)
Tend to neglect yourself but you’re ready to commit to change (even when it’s difficult)
Want to truly learn to love yourself
This isn't for you if:
You're looking for a quick fix
You want someone to tell you exactly what to do
You're not ready to get uncomfortable
You're not willing to show up for yourself
Ready to Transform Your Relationship with Yourself?
It’s time to stop overthinking and start listening
The fact that you're here, reading this, means part of you knows it's time for change. Your resistance to this work isn't a sign that you're doing something wrong - it's an invitation to listen more deeply.
The resistance you feel? That's normal.
The skepticism? I get it.
But imagine looking back after 4 weeks, knowing you finally took the step that changed everything.
Are you ready to answer that invitation?
Course Dates: 14th January - 11th February 2025
Got questions?
Book a call to see if we're a good fit.
No pressure, no sales tactics.
Just an honest conversation about where you are and what you need.
Some things that are probably on your mind ↓
It sounds like an awful lot of work, what if I’m too busy?
If you’re busy now, keeping yourself busy isn’t going to change anything. One of the most profound things you can do for yourself is carve out some space to slow down. Why can you commit to work but not to learning about yourself? If you can't commit to yourself, how will you be able to commit to another?
I don’t like the idea of being vulnerable in front of a group. Do I have to share?
There is incredible power in the experience of being witnessed by others. We create a closed, safe space and sharing is highly encouraged but not mandatory. The more you can allow yourself to open up, the more benefits you’ll experience. But we never want anyone to feel uncomfortable.
I’m afraid I’ll join and then never show up. What’s the commitment?
Embedding supportive practices as part of your daily life gets so much easier once you have received and experienced their many benefits. Getting started is the hardest part. There is a high level of accountability involved. I am totally immersed with you all for the month and will be by your side for encouragement, support and to navigate challenges with you.
The weekly commitment is five 30 min practices, one education session and one 1:1 call along with any time you spend engaging with the community and me in our closed Facebook group. The course lasts 4 weeks.
How much 1:1 support is included?
You receive a weekly 1:1 60 minute call with me (4 total throughout the month).
What if I can’t attend early morning sessions?
I appreciate that not everyone is an early bird. I do really believe in the power of a morning practice which sets you up for the day. I’d encourage everyone to do their best to attend live if possible but I totally understand that other commitments might clash. Recordings of each session are made available within 24 hours of the call (usually much less) so that you can partake.
When does the course take place?
We start on the 14th January 2025 and it runs until the 11th February.